「送兔迎龍賀新歲」親子活動

【預祝各位新年快樂​,身體健康】

「送兔迎龍賀新歲」親子活動於2024年2月6日完滿結束,感謝各位的支持和參與。

當日由家委會成員以及小朋友打響頭炮,在學校正門進行了精彩的醒獅表演。

接著就進入校園每一個角落參與不同的新年活動,有齊齊品茶食糕點、行年宵辦年貨、新年圖工、舞龍舞獅等等,更可以寫上新春祝福添。

新年慶祝活動

為預祝新年的到來,今日三級幼兒都有不同的新年慶祝活動!K1-煮紅豆沙,K2-寫揮春,K3-吃團年飯。

K1小朋友親自煮紅豆沙與大家一同享用,寓意幸福美滿,開心快樂!
K2小朋友寫揮春,用心地寫上他們為大家的祝福,亦為校園添上新年氣氛!
K3小朋友聚首一堂吃團年飯,帶了很多與屋企人一同製作的食物回學校和大家分享!

我們明日(2024年2月6日星期二)舉行「送兔迎龍賀新歲」親子活動,歡迎全校幼兒與家長、2024-2025年度K1新生家長及區內小朋友一同參加!

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「Let’s Move@Preschool(幼動樂)」-足球活動

最近香港足球運動在各大型賽事中獲得令人鼓舞的成績。

本校承接這個運動熱潮!有幸參與由康樂及文化事務署推廣之「Let’s Move@Preschool(幼動樂)」,由專業教練帶領一班幼兒進行足球活動,學會如何運用身體各種部位把足球成功送達。玩得開心同時,亦加強了小朋友的四肢協調肌能,建立團體合作精神,與及培養堅毅的體育精神。

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高班户外活動-參觀「香港鐵路博物館」

你們知道香港鐵路的歷史嗎?

學校帶領一班小朋友到香港鐵路博物館認識昔日同現今鐵路的演變,親身接觸鐵路文物,坐上舊式火車廂,穿梭鐵路今昔,以生動有趣的方式進行參觀。

如欲了解更多校本課程可致電 2671-3399 與本校聯絡。

「送兔迎龍賀新歲」親子活動

新春將至,本校將於2024年2月6日(星期二)在校內舉行「送兔迎龍賀新歲」親子活動,歡迎全校幼兒與家長、2024-2025年度K1新生家長及區內小朋友一同參加,感受農曆新年的節日氣氛。

届時設有多項新春遊戲,歡迎各家長及幼兒穿着具有新年特色之服裝參與,同賀新春!

地點:本校(東華三院徐展堂幼稚園)

時間:

第一節—上午9:30-11:30

第二節—上午11:30-下午1:30

第三節—下午1:30-3:30

*因應人流控制,建議K1新生與家長參與第二節時段。

為甚麼孩子做出挑戰家長的行為?

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撰文:嬰幼兒心理發展協會

   心理諮詢師程衛強先生

 

「孩子故意做出挑戰你底線的行為嗎?」

「孩子的行為跟你的意願完全相反嗎?」

「孩子怎樣罰都不怕,還好像愈罰愈『曳』!」

 

這些都是你的寫照嗎?很多時候,父母們都會為孩子的行為而操心不已,但其實孩子行為的背後,可能有著不同的情緒,例如孩子可能因為爭寵而故意作出反叛行為,又或因為想得到父母的關注,而作出不當行為,如果這樣的話,可能會「愈罰愈不聽話」!

 

美國著名的情緒心理學家Plutchik指出,我們有 8種基本情緒 (Plutchik, 1993),包括接納、預期、厭惡、憤怒、悲傷、恐懼、快樂及驚訝,這些情緒會按「情緒鏈 (Emotion Chain)」表現出來,包括:(一)刺激、(二)想法、(三)情緒、(四)行為和(五)效果。

 

舉例說,哥哥見到媽媽在照顧年幼的妹妹(刺激),不禁想到媽媽可能只愛妹妹而不再理會自己了(想法),因此出現悲傷和憤怒等情緒(情緒),於是便故意搗蛋(行為),結果媽媽放下妹妹在嬰兒床,然後「處理」哥哥(效果)。在哥哥的眼中,媽媽總算放下了妹妹,因此,該行為達到效果。

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年幼的孩子未必能透過語言表達自己的想法,所以父母要了解其背後的原因,可能有點困難。其實,我們可以透過安撫孩子的情緒,並留意有關行為發生的模式,便可以改善其行為。

 

舉例說,哥哥每逢看到媽媽照顧妹妹就會出現不當行為,這可以推測得到哥哥是希望得到媽媽的愛。因此,媽媽可以平衡一下與哥哥及妹妹的獨處時間,讓哥哥感受到媽媽也是愛他的,也可以邀請他一起去照顧妹妹。如果被忽略時就會有不當行為,這可能是引起父母關注的一個技倆,父母可以在不當行為未出現時就給予關注,但當不當行為出現時,就以故意忽略的技巧回應,以讓孩子明白,不當行為並不能引起關注。

 

只要知道孩子的行為原因,對改善不當行為有莫大的幫助。想知道更多有關資訊,可與我們聯絡。

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Why do children engage in challenging behaviors that challenge parents?

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Written by: Child Psychological Development Association

Psychological Counselor, Mr. Ching Wai Keung

 

“Is your child deliberately engaging in behavior that challenges your limits?”
“Does your child’s behavior completely contradict your wishes?”
“No matter how you punish your child, it seems like they become more defiant!”

Do these scenarios sound familiar to you? Many times, parents worry incessantly about their child’s behavior. However, behind the child’s behavior, there may be different emotions. For example, a child might intentionally exhibit rebellious behavior due to a desire for attention or rivalry for affection. In such cases, punishing the child may result in them becoming even more disobedient.

Renowned American emotion psychologist Plutchik pointed out that we have eight basic emotions (Plutchik, 1993), including acceptance, anticipation, disgust, anger, sadness, fear, joy, and surprise. These emotions manifest in an “Emotion Chain,” which includes stimuli, thoughts, emotions, behavior, and outcomes.

For instance, when an older brother sees his mom taking care of his younger sister (stimulus), he may think that his mom now only loves his sister and ignores him (thoughts). This could lead to emotions like sadness and anger (emotions). As a result, he may intentionally misbehave (behavior). The outcome is that the mom puts down the sister in the crib and then deals with the older brother (outcome). In the older brother’s eyes, his mom finally put down his sister, achieving the desired outcome through his behavior.

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Young children may not necessarily express their thoughts through language, making it challenging for parents to understand the reasons behind their behavior. However, by soothing the child’s emotions and paying attention to patterns in their behavior, we can improve their conduct.

For example, if an older brother consistently exhibits inappropriate behavior whenever he sees his mom taking care of his younger sister, it can be inferred that he is seeking his mother’s love. In response, the mom can balance one-on-one time with both the older brother and younger sister, allowing him to feel that his mother loves him too. She can also invite him to participate in caring for the younger sister. If inappropriate behavior arises when attention is lacking, it may be a skill to attract parental attention. In such cases, parents can offer attention before inappropriate behavior occurs and deliberately ignore the behavior when it does, helping the child understand that misbehavior does not garner attention.

Understanding the reasons behind a child’s behavior is immensely helpful in improving inappropriate conduct. If you’d like to know more, feel free to contact us.

How to handle the awkwardness when grown-up children find it awkward to have heart-to-heart talks with their parents?

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As children grow up, many parents may find that their children become increasingly resistant to having heart-to-heart talks. The children may feel awkward, or perhaps the family relationships have not been very close since childhood. Dr. Wong Chung Hin, a specialist in psychiatry, points out, “It is crucial for parents to establish a good parent-child relationship from an early age. If parents suspect emotional issues in their children, in addition to observing changes in their behavior, they can guide their children to express their thoughts and understand their inner world.”

As mentioned earlier, parents and children should establish a parent-child relationship from a young age, setting aside time each day for parent-child communication and engaging in interesting family activities together. Dr. Wong emphasizes, “A close parent-child relationship helps children express themselves to their parents. Even as they grow older, they will be more willing to express themselves and have trust in their family.”

However, if a child is unwilling to reveal their thoughts and parents notice changes in their behavior (refer to: https://www.parentsdaily.com.hk/expert/4073), Dr. Wong advises parents to patiently guide their children to express their inner feelings. “When children express their thoughts, parents should listen patiently and provide them with the opportunity to express themselves. Establish a daily parent-child chatting time, allowing children to have a channel to express themselves at home. Parents should remember that once children mention symptoms related to emotional issues, parents should not criticize or constantly deny their children.”

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Dr. Wong continues, “Everyone has their own thoughts and perspectives, and parents are no exception. I once had a parent tell me that their child refused to go to school and do homework, and their emotions would spiral out of control every time they were urged to go to school. However, when the child stayed home to play video games, they seemed very happy, leading the parent to think the child was just lazy and ‘pretending.’ However, parents should carefully understand the reasons behind the child’s reluctance to go to school and not dismiss any emotional issues the child may have, to avoid missing crucial moments for addressing emotional problems.” If, after parental guidance, the child still refuses to discuss their situation, parents can contact the school to learn about the child’s situation at school.

Dr. Wong recalls a case involving a high school student: “This student suddenly called the clinic one day and asked if it was necessary for parents to accompany him. Later, the student came for a consultation with friends, revealing that he had a poor relationship with his family. After sharing with friends, they suggested seeking professional advice. During the treatment process, I slowly built a good doctor-patient relationship with him, gained his trust, and hoped to help rebuild his relationship with his family.” Dr. Wong laments that not every case receives family support, so the role of schools is crucial. When young people encounter emotional or stress-related issues and cannot confide in their families, they can seek assistance from trusted adults.

In light of the recent increase in suicide tragedies, Dr. Wong advises parents to understand that a child’s holistic development involves more than just academic achievements; it also includes mental health. Dr. Wong understands that a child’s stress often comes from academic and family expectations. “Whether students or parents, I hope everyone can equip themselves well in stressful environments. Equipping oneself does not necessarily mean extra tutoring but taking good care of one’s mental health and achieving balance in life. Parents and schools should also teach students about the importance of mental health and promote the holistic growth of students’ physical and mental well-being.”

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孩子長大與父母談心感尷尬 可以怎樣做?

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隨著子女長大,相信不少家長都發現子女愈來愈抗拒與父母談心,孩子可能是覺得尷尬,也可能是自小家庭關係不太緊密。精神科專科黃宗顯醫生指出:「自小與子女建立良好親子關係十分重要,但若家長懷疑子女出現情緒問題,除了留意子女行為有否變化外,亦可引導子女表達自己的想法,了解他們的內心世界。」

如前文提及,家長與孩子應自小建立親子關係,每天放下工作,給予雙方親子交流的時間,一起進行有趣的親子活動。黃醫生指:「緊密的親子關係有助孩子向家長表達內心,即使隨著年紀長大,他們亦會較願意表達自己,並對家人有所信任。」

惟若孩子不願透露自己想法,家長又察覺孩子的行為變化時(可參考:https://www.parentsdaily.com.hk/expert/4073),黃醫生建議家長應耐心引導孩子表達內心,「當孩子表達自己的想法時,家長應耐心聆聽,給予孩子表達的機會。與子女建立每天親子聊天時間,讓子女有渠道在家表達自己。家長要謹記一旦子女提及相關情緒問題的症狀時,家長不應作出批判,也不要處處否定子女。」

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黃醫生續指:「每個人都會有自己想法和立場,家長亦然。曾經有家長告訴我,他的小朋友不願上學和做功課,每天要他上學,他的情緒便會失控。但當小朋友留在家打機又會很開心,令家長覺得小朋友只是懶惰和『扮嘢』。但家長應細心了解小朋友不願上學背後的原因,不應排除小朋友任何情緒問題,以免錯過處理情緒問題的重要時刻。」但若家長引導過後,孩子仍然對自己的狀況絕口不提,家長可與學校聯絡,了解孩子在校的情況等。

黃醫生憶述其中一個中學生個案:「這位學生有天突然自己致電診所,詢問看醫生是否一定要家長陪同。後來,這位學生與朋友一同來就診,才發現原來這位學生與家人關係不好,朋友聽他分享後,便建議他尋求專業意見。在治療的過程中,我與他慢慢建立良好醫患關係,得到他的信任,並希望能重建他與家人的關係。」黃醫生慨嘆並不是每個個案都能得到家人支持,因此學校角色都非常重要,年青人一旦遇到情緒或壓力問題,若無法找家人傾訴,可以尋求信任的成人協助。

面對近日不斷的輕生悲劇,黃醫生寄語家長要明白要孩子全人發展,不單單只有學業成績,更包含精神健康等。黃醫生深明孩子的壓力大多來自學習及家人期望,「不論學生或家長,希望大家都能在壓力環境下好好裝備自己,所謂的裝備並非補習,而是好好照顧自己的精神健康,在生活中取得平衡。家長及學校亦應教導學生了解精神健康的重要,促進學生身心健康的成長。」

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【預祝各位聖誕快樂 新年快樂!】

聖誕樂滿FUN嘉年華會於2023年12月20日順利舉行,感謝各位的支持和參與,令活動變得有聲有色。各項表演項目亦都十分精彩,唱歌跳舞、魔術、朗誦、武術….真的非常豐富!

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