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Does the child cry non-stop when they are a little dissatisfied?

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3 月 2023
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Source：Family Dynamic, Psychotherapist, Lai Shun Mei

Sometimes, children may cry when they are slightly dissatisfied, and parents may have tried different methods to comfort their children, but the children still cry from time to time. This may make parents feel tired, helpless, and even annoyed. In fact, children’s crying is usually a way of expressing their emotions. Because their language is not yet developed enough to convey a complete story, their own feelings, and some thoughts, they will use the most direct or fastest way to seek help when they are unhappy, which is to cry, just like when they were infants.

Let’s not assume that just because children can walk, talk, and go to school, we need to talk to them more about reasoning. In fact, in the preschool years, parents should provide more emotional support to their children. Maslow, a well-known psychologist, came up with the five-level theory of human needs. The levels are physiological, safety, social, esteem, and self-actualization. As children’s cognitive development matures, they have already reached the third level of social needs, which is love and a sense of belonging.

At this time, they need to feel the care and love from people around them, and they begin to recognize their own emotions. Therefore, if parents can help them express their emotions and thoughts, not only will their language skills improve, but their social needs will also be met.

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When we see a child crying, we as parents can say something like this to them: “You seem very unhappy; maybe you don’t like it when mommy talks to you in a harsh tone.” “Your little brother took your toy without asking, which made you angry.” If you can speak accurately to the child’s feelings, they will quickly nod and stop crying. Over time, they will learn to use other means to express themselves instead of crying.

Some parents may wonder why their usually talkative kids can’t say what they’re feeling when they’re sad. This is because emotions can affect rational thinking. If I asked you to give a speech on stage right now, how would you feel? You may feel nervous or even a little scared, and if I don’t give you time to prepare, you may not be able to say a word. You can see that emotions can affect adults, let alone children.

So, as parents, we should first calm down and then carefully watch and try to figure out why our kids are crying. Then, put yourself in their shoes and express your thoughts and emotions. This way, the child will not cry anymore.

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小朋友有少少不滿就哭泣不停？

家長錦囊

3 月 2023
3-9

資料來源：家庭動力心理輔導員賴舜薇

小朋友有時候可能因為少少不滿，就會哭起來，家長可能已經用了很多不同的方法來安慰自己的小朋友，但他還是時不時便哭起來。這樣爸爸媽媽可能已經覺得很累 ，有一點無助和不知道怎麼辦，甚至覺得有一點煩擾。其實通常來說小朋友的哭泣，是一種情緒的表達。因為他們的語言未可以豐富到講一件完整的事情、他自己的感受和一些的想法，所以他們在不開心的時候就會沿用他們嬰兒時期，最直接或者最快會得到救助的一種方式來表達，就是哭泣。

我們不要以為他們懂得行、懂得走和上了學，我們就需要和他講多一些道理。其實相反在幼兒期的小朋友，家長應該和他們做多一些情感支援。著名的心理學家馬斯洛提出，人類需求的五層次理論，分別是生理需求、安全需求、社會需求、尊重需求和自我實現需求。隨著小朋友的心智成熟，他們已經去到第三層的社會需求，亦即是愛和歸屬感。

在這個時候他是需要感受，身邊的人對他的關愛，並且他開始認識自己的情緒。所以在這一個階段如果父母可以協助他，幫他們能說一些情緒和想法。不但他們的語言表達能力可以提升，他們的社會需求亦會得到滿足。

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看到小朋友哭泣的時候，我們家長可以這樣跟他說：「你很不開心似的，原來你不喜歡媽媽這麼惡跟你說話。「弟弟沒有問過你便拿了你的玩具玩，令你生氣。」如果你說中小朋友的心聲，其實很快會點一下頭和很快不會再哭起來，慢慢他們學識了這種表達方式，他們便不需要用哭泣來表達自己。

 有一些家長可能便會問：「平日小朋友牙尖嘴利很會說話，但為何有些不開心，他們便說不出來？」其實這是情緒，對人理性思維的影響。假如我邀請你上台做一個演說，你現在是甚麼感覺？你可能會緊張甚至有一點害怕，如果我不給予時間你作準備，這樣可能你連一句說話也說不出。這樣你會看見大人都會受情緒的影響，更何況是小朋友。

所以在小朋友不開心的時候，我們作為家長首先放平和自己的心情，然後耐心觀察和分析他們哭泣的原因。再嘗試站在他們的立場，說出他們的想法和情緒，這樣小朋友便不會再哭泣。

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How should parents deal with young children who are overly addicted to cell phone games?

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3 月 2023
3-1

Source: Family Dynamic, Marriage and Family Therapist, and Hypnotherapist, Wong Shi Ming

Phones emit light and sound, which always attracts children to play endlessly. Some children cannot let go of their phones no matter what they are doing, whether it is eating, riding in a car, or going to school. How can parents solve this problem?

First of all, everyone should understand that the children’s reaction is inevitable. Phones can provide a lot of sensory stimulation, and there is no game over. It can be restarted, which gives a sense of accomplishment and can also distance children from the pressure and frustration of parents and school, making them feel invincible. Physiologically speaking, playing electronic games will release a large amount of dopamine in the brain, which excites and stimulates the frontal lobe, and gradually loses self-control. Therefore, many adults cannot control themselves, let alone children?

Children can also be drawn to phones without realizing it, which gives most parents in Hong Kong nightmares today. I see many parents and children caught in a never-ending cycle of struggle and frustration. If not controlled, it not only affects children’s learning but also seriously affects their focus, brain development, health, and eye diseases. Therefore, phone addiction will also be listed as a form of psychological addiction, like alcohol and drugs.

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In fact, I have seen a middle school student addicted to playing the mobile game “PUBG,” where he had to pick up items on the ground, some of which could be booby-trapped and explode. What caused him to be hospitalized? He was unable to use his hands to hold objects; instead, he had to touch them lightly, which caused him to feel nervous. He was afraid of using his fingers to pick up things. Therefore, if you discover such a problem, you can handle it early and prevent situations like the one above from happening.

Parents have more experience, wisdom, and resources than their children, and you can’t lose as a parent. Your only weakness is that you love your child too much. You may be too soft-hearted, but you need to know that it’s easy to give but hard to take it back. Therefore, parents should first negotiate a reasonable and feasible plan with their children, such as allowing 30 minutes of playtime per day, but only after they finish their homework.

As for controlling children, parents should first choose an appropriate battlefield, avoiding public places, and the best place is at home. Even when taking the phone away, parents should try to avoid physical contact, such as snatching or unplugging the phone cord, which could harm the relationship with their child. Parents should first use a gentle and affirmative tone to warn their child multiple times. If the child still refuses to hand over the phone, remind him of the consequences he agreed to, and eventually, when he falls asleep, you will be able to retrieve it. But parents must firmly execute the consequences without any room for negotiation, even if it means resorting to negative strategies.

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To provide a more positive approach, parents can offer opportunities for their children to engage in outdoor activities together and create a family environment that gives children options, a sense of achievement, and a chance to start over, building their confidence and abilities, all of which can help attract children away from their phones.

Finally, many parents worry that if their child doesn’t have a phone while other children do, it could lead to feelings of inadequacy and concerns about falling behind in their development. So, I know it’s not possible to keep kids away from phones completely, but I think parents should try to keep their kids away from phones for as long as possible, especially when they’re young.

At the same time, parents should be careful and not take this issue lightly. With enough creativity and interaction with their children and by remaining persistent, parents can change their children’s habits.

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小朋友過分沉迷手機遊 家長要如何處理？

家長錦囊

3 月 2023
3-1

資料來源：家庭動力婚姻及家庭治療師、催眠治療師黃思明

電話發出光芒與聲音，總會吸引小朋友玩過不停。有些小朋友無論甚麼時候，不論是吃飯、搭車和上學，都機不離手。家長可以如何解決這問題呢？

首先，大家要明白小朋友的反應是必然的，手機可以提供很多感官的刺激，也沒有gameover，可以重新開始，有成功感，也可以遠離父母、學校的壓力和挫敗感，根本就是無敵。從生理學來說，玩電子遊戲是會令大腦釋放大量的多巴胺，給前額葉皮層令人興奮、刺激，並漸漸會失去了自我控制能力，所以有很多成人都不能夠控制，何況小朋友呢？

小朋友也會不自覺被吸引，造成現在香港大部分父母的惡夢。我看見很多父母和小朋友，都陷入一個無窮的鬥爭和挫敗。如果不加以控制，不單止對小朋友的學習有影響，更嚴重是會影響他們的專注力、腦袋的發展、健康和眼睛的疾病。因此手機成癮也將會像酒和毒品一樣，被列為其中一種心理成癮病。

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事實上我曾見過一個初中生，他沉迷打野戰遊戲「食雞」，他時時要在地上執起一些物資，但這些物資有時候會有陷阱會爆炸的。他入醫院的原因是甚麼？

是他不能用手拿著東西，他可以碰下碰下，他會很緊張。因為只要他用手指拿東西就會很害怕。所以你現在發現問題，便可以早些處理，避免出現以上情況。

 家長比孩子有更加多經驗、智慧及資源，你不可能會輸的，你唯一的弱點就是你太愛他。你會心軟，要知道給很容易要收卻很難，所以家長應該要先和小朋友協商一個合理可行的方案，譬如一日可玩30分鐘，但要先完成家課。

至於控制小朋友，首先要選擇適合的戰埸，不要在公眾場所，最合適的就是在家中。即使收也要盡量避免身體接觸，好像搶、拔電線這些應該要盡量避免，因為會傷感情。家長要先用溫柔肯定的語調，警告他很多次。如果他還不肯交出，你便要提醒孩子他已經同意的後果，到最後他睡了你一定可以收到的。但就要堅持堅定執行後果，沒有商量的餘地，這些就是較為負面的策略。

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更正面的是為小朋友提供，可以吸引他離開手機的機會，例如和小朋友一起進行戶外活動，提供一個家庭環境，給小朋友有得選擇、有成功感、有重新開始的機會，建立他的自信和能力。

最後很多父母因為其他小朋友有手機，如果自己的沒有，擔心小朋友有比較

甚至會引起自卑，有些擔心小朋友會比其他人學得慢，將來可能會影響他的發展。因此我知道現實是不可能不給小朋友接觸手機的，所以我提議愈小愈應該避免使用手機，盡量拖遲他們進入這個世界。

同時家長也要把握機會小心處理，不可以掉以輕心。只要父母夠創意，多些和小朋友有互動和陪伴，夠堅持便可以改變小朋友。

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